Here are some of the questions most often asked of us by potential members and those interested in ClubFEM. If you don't see your question here, please contact us.

ClubFEM NYC is BDSM organization for Female dominants and submissive men in and around New York City. FEM is an acronym for "Females Enslaving males". The term "club" does not refer to a place or location but an organization of people coming together based on their mutual interest in exploring Female domination and male submission. We have rich history with locations all over the world through ClubFEM International.

ClubFEM is exclusively a FEMALE DOMINANT/male submissive group. There are no dominant men or submissive Women at a Club FEM activity. Although some of our members are switches, we do not allow switching of roles at ClubFEM parties and events. Women are in control at all times. Most other BDSM groups are pansexual, with many members being male Dominants and female submissives. ClubFEM is a relatively small group and members often become friends and do many things together outside the Club parties. An important advantage of ClubFEM membership is that you can learn more quickly about the roles of Mistress and slave due to ClubFEM's specific nature.

No. Although there are many couples who are members of ClubFEM, there are about equal numbers of single Women and men. What is the age range of ClubFEM members? The median age of ClubFEM members internationally is about 40. Our members range from age 23 to over 60. However, anyone requesting membership in ClubFEM must be at least 21.

Anything she likes, of course. Women at ClubFEM may go by Mistress, Lady, Goddess, Domme, Dame, Queen, Princess, Ms., Miss, Mrs. or any number of other titles. A respectful "Ma'am" or "Ms." will often be safe, but again, it's always best to ask because each Woman has her own preferences.

For the NYC chapter, Mistresses or slaves who are interested in membership begin by sending a letter of introduction, as described below, on our membership page. Your letter of introduction will be reviewed by the ClubFEM Head Mistress. When a favorable decision is reached, you will be asked to attend a ClubFEM Munch or to arrange an initial meeting with a Mistress. All initial meetings take place in a public place such as a restaurant or coffee shop. Successful applicants will be invited to attend a ClubFEM party. To be considered for membership, an individual or couple must attend at least 2 ClubFEM parties. Decisions about membership are made by the ClubFEM Head Mistress. Membership in ClubFEM provides an automatic invitation to all ClubFEM functions and an invitation to join the Members Only area of the web site. Questions should go to headmistress@clubfemnyc.com.

The key to a successful letter is brevity. BE CERTAIN to include your email address and your geographic location (city and state) when writing. Tell us briefly about your interest in ClubFEM, how you learned about us, and what you hope to explore at ClubFEM. We do not expect or want lengthy autobiographies from potential members, as we receive a large volume of email on a daily basis. DO NOT stress fetish or sexual subjects in this first letter and please refrain from sending us your fantasies.

A munch is an informal get-together for local members of ClubFEM. It is held in a public place such as a restaurant or coffee shop. Munches provide a safe, fun, social environment for newcomers to meet and socialize with members of ClubFEM in order to learn more about the club and meet others in the lifestyle. Because these meetings are held in public places, please do not dress in fetish-wear or expect any BDSM play. Business or business-casual dress is appropriate for men. We often schedule munches when we have new people applying for membership to the club. There is no entrance fee for a munch and you only pay for what you eat and/or drink. It is always a good idea to leave a generous tip.