Membership Requirements:

• To be considered for membership an individual or couple must attend at least 2 ClubFEM NYC parties.
• Decisions about membership are made by the ClubFEM Head Mistress.
• Membership in ClubFEM NYC provides an automatic invitation to all ClubFEM functions and an invitation to join the ClubFEM Members Only section of the Web site.

ClubFEM members agree to abide by the following ClubFEM protocol at parties and events:

• ClubFEM members agree to be in the FemDomme and male submissive roles exclusively at ClubFEM parties and events.
• There is no requirement for Dommes or subs to engage in BDSM play (scenes). Although some may choose to play, many people attend parties to socialize and learn techniques by watching others.
• Males are to behave respectfully to all Females at all times.
• All ClubFEM slaves are expected to bring an attitude of servitude and submissiveness and should be willing to serve refreshments and treat the Women respectfully.
• Slaves are not obligated to engage in any form of play without consent and negotiation.
• Males are to address Females as Mistress, Ma'am or other proper titles as designated by that Female.
• Dominant attire for Females may include fetish wear, leather, latex, PVC, lingerie, and/or black clothing. Bascially, anything that makes a Woman feel wonderful.
• Males in a relationship should wear what their Domme wants them to wear.
• Single males should wear either a formal tux, the ClubFEM slave uniform (the bow tie collar and black jock strap on our Links Page), or sissy service attire. A leash, wrist and ankle cuffs are optional. Boxer shorts and men's briefs are not considered appropriate attire under any circumstances.
• Females are to refrain from touching or commanding a personally collared slave without his Owner's permission.
• Males who wish to be available to any Domme for service or BDSM play scenes will wear a purple ribbon on their collar. However, wearing a purple ribbon dos not obligate a slave to engage in play nor does it negate the need to negotiate a scene.

• Everyone is expected to act in a safe, sane and consensual manner at all ClubFEM parties and events.
• Impairment by alcohol or other legal drugs is not permitted. People who are impaired will be asked to leave. Males are not permitted to drink alcohol at ClubFEM parties.
• No illegal substances are allowed at ClubFEM parties and events.
• No photography or cameras are allowed at ClubFEM parties.
• Safewords or gestures should be used at all ClubFEM sponsored activities. Suggested safewords are: "green" = within limits "yellow" = close to limits (proceed carefully) "red" = over limits (stop immediately).
• Safety is the number one concern, particularly when with a new submissive.
• Other personal safewords may be used as long as they are communicated beforehand. When it is not possible to use a safeword, some type of gesture should be agreed upon.

Please send your comments or questions about the rules to the Head Mistress.